fabsroman
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The guns were NOT bought with money from our joint accounts. Mainly from saving of birthday gifts, selling off car parts, selling other stuff and odd jobs. Never did money that would go toward the family go toward the guns. 1 gun is sold, being picked up Saturday. One on GB right now (not legal for sale in MD), and I am giving one to my old man. My brother just bought a place so I am probably going to leave them with him for now. We had a family vacation pre-planned for next week, so for the kids sake we are going. The living situation will be sorted when we get back. FWIW, I am NOT the one who wanted this, nor had serious issues with the marriage. I tried like crazy to avoid it by suggesting counseling, a cool off period, etc. I think it's done. I can't force her to love me. But, she has a real resentment towards my guns I wasn't really aware of. She said she kept quiet and let me do my thing. It just simmered in her even though I tried to include her. I still don't want this, but one man with a bucket couldn't save the titanic. Thanks for the suggestions.
Well then, that really sucks if the marriage is only bad for her and not you. It really sucks when it isn't a mutual divorce. Going on vacation for the "kids" is a decent move, but making the marriage work for the kids would be even better. Is it just the guns, or is there more to it than merely the guns.
FYI - since I met my wife I have told her that whenever she or I have an issue with the other, we need to address it immediately instead of keeping a laundry list to pull out in some huge blow out. No simmering of anything. Before I met my wife, I was engaged to a woman that kept a laundry list, and when we had a disagreement on one thing then she brought out the laundry list to really make me feel like crap. Nothing quite like piling 10 different topics onto one. With my wife and I, we address whatever the issue is until it is resolved. I LOVE my wife.
I really do hope that the two of you work this out. Kind of amazing how few people actually attend marriage counseling and go straight to divorce instead.