I must be the exception to the rule because, I do practice in the dark and I do use the sights. My home and family are worth something to me and training to be able to protect them is a responsibility I do not take lightly. I have seen too many encounters where someone will empty an entire magazine and never even touch the bad guy with a single round when they are only feet apart. Remember, a wounded bad guy can still shoot back.
Do you and your wife use SIMS? What real life pistol with night sights that shoots a projectile are you using? Or do you have an airsoft pistol with night sights installed?
Having someone come at you and you "pretending" to "shoot" them with a safe/inop pistol with night sights going through the movements is not what I am talking about. There is no way to gauge your skill.
You didn't mention how you practice. You just say you take it seriously. Which is fine. We all take shooting seriously.
Many probably would like to know all of these bad shooting, mag dump encounters you have witnessed.
I'll just say that I have probably shot more SIMS rounds in "attack" scenarios than many people have shot real ammo. So this is why I think there are not many who have trained this. I had been blessed with an exceptional career. I know if it weren't for my job that I would have never had the SIMS scenario training exposure that I've had. I would be like "most people" as well.